Saturday, July 20, 2013


 

“Within The Secret Gardens Of The Heart, Displayed, Are Intimate, and Tonic, Flower’d Joys Arrayed”

 

 

07/20/13

 

 

Oh, my dearest, kindest friends, and ever-constant, loyal readers,

 

 

I have always loved flowers; pretty ones, unusual ones, striking ones, which range from the deep, dark red of the rose, “Mr. Lincoln”, to the odd, Venus Flytrap.

 

I dote-upon, and can spend hours, and hours poring through nursery catalogues to see their many-splendored offerings.

 

And, as the dreaded heat of summer wears on, and on, I eagerly wait until Fall, when—hopefully—the incinerator that is Florida finally begins to cool, until it is safe to venture outside, knees pads on, attired in ‘work clothes, and trowel in hand; and there with potting soil, cow poo, top soil, and mulch,( and, convenient rolling seat to sit upon), take precious seeds, or seedlings, in hopes of transforming a rather plain, and quite uneventful stretch of weeds, and lawn, to make of it a sheltered paradise.

 

That is the wish I entertain, and have entertained for the past twenty-seven years.

 

There are—however—probably six or seven things that have ever thwarted my most plangent effort.

 

1)           Always, cash has been a problem.

2)           Somewhere in that 27 years, I was altered, made the worse, changed from an energetic thirty-two year old, with more ideas, than sense, into the fifty-eight year old wreck I am—regrettably—today; full of pain, illness, anxiety, agoraphobia, and  oxygen @ three liters, 24/7.  In addition, I seem to be allergic to nearly everything that groweth, or, creepeth upon the ground (think caterpillars, spiders, snakes, and biting flies).

3)           Until I became ill and disabled, I worked full time night shift, so the majority of my ‘off-the-clock’ time was consumed doing errands for my late mother and father, or, just trying to somehow, get enough sleep to make it through the next night.

4)           While some people are admittedly born with a ‘green thumb’, mine is of the most ebon shade of black; plants recoil from my touch.

5)           I once tried to make the outline of a huge, flower plot in the side-yard, using a hose to shape the outline, and the amending the holy Hanna out of the soil, which was mostly sand.  I must have purchased $200.00 worth of various flower seeds  (which looked SO pretty on the packs), only to discover that the ants, and the birds LOVED the seeds, and they proceeded to eat every last, blessed seed.

6)           If you will observe on Google-earth, a map of Florida, and then drop down the west coast, until one reaches the mouth of Tampa Bay (on the map, it looks exactly like some demi-Godling took a bite out of the peninsula), you will find yourself in the vicinity of where I live.  For you gardeners out there, we are talking zone 9; there’s only two more zones, until one runs out of land at Key West, and finds oneself walking out into the water.  What zone 9 means, is that, probably 9/10ths’ of everything listed in the plant catalogues will just shrivel up and die here.

 

I longed for tulips, I dawdled over daffodils, I loved the oriental poppy; all for naught, as none of them would ever survive the heat and the humidity here.

 

How do I know this to be true?  Because one year, I was given (and bought more) a box of dahlia bulbs, which actually grew, and looked astonishingly beautiful; in fact, cars passing by would slow to take in the sight.  Until arrived the relentless heat of July.  I couldn’t get home early enough to keep them watered, and, in a short while, the sun burnt them to the ground, and the bulbs rotted.  Damn.

 

 

I did grow an orange cosmos from seed (until the local bunny rabbits on the loose, ate them to the ground)…think of a very fat, bearded, and bespectacled Elmer Fudd {…kill the wab-bit!}

 

And so, my dearest friends, in 27 years, I have little or nothing to show for it, save for an unquenchable desire to plant AND grow something very, very pretty, and to—somehow—feel a part of the whole ‘creation/seeing new life emerge’ thing.

 

 

This summer is no different, dear friends.  I have my handy, dandy flower catalogue (it is one I’ve always liked) from “Bluestone Perennials”.

 

For those of you who are itinerant gardeners, or those who routinely (and with great success!), plant flowers all the time, I must tell you that this catalogue is wonderful, and can be had for free.  Again, dearest friends, I am not getting a dime for indorsing this company.  But, to get a general look-see, go to:

               www.bluestoneperennials.com

Otherwise, their mailing address, and telephone #  is:

            Bluestone Perennials

            7211 Middle Ridge Rd.

            Madison, Ohio, 44057

            Telephone #: 1-800-852-5243

            Hours of operation: Mon-Fri,

            9 a.m. to 4 p.m. ( E.S.T )

 

There are many reasons why I adore this particular catalogue:

1)           For each genus of plants, they provide two graphs, one, for length of blooming time, and the other, for sun or shade requirements.

2)           Each established ‘seedling’ is about 3” high, giving it a head start over trying to cultivate from seed only.

3)           Their pots are 100% biodegradable

4)           I believe they guarantee their plants to arrive in good condition AND to grow  (with no particular time limit), or they will issue a replacement, or a refund.

5)           Bluestone offers a huge variety of perennials, that—generally—cost about $7.95 each, plus, of course, shipping and handling.

6)           The photographs of the flowers, scrubs, ferns, ground-covers, and trees are gorgeous!

7)           And, for those—like me—likely to step on a rake, therefore bashing in my conk, they offer already planned gardens for shade, for butterflies, for direct sun, and for the newcomer.

I’ve already been poring over, and poring over their catalogue, and I think I have narrowed it down to just three or four perennials to ‘experiment’ with:

 

1)           When money frees up, of course, I think I may get a few “Stella D’Oro” day lilies, as with some protection, they might survive up under the front hedge, where the hedge has gotten spotty.

2)           For the full-sun area, I like the ‘Gaillardia’, Mexican and Indian blanket flowers; I first discovered them—on my way home for work, once—growing in a vacant lot in pure sand!  And with no care, whatsoever.  They love the hot sun, love poor soil, and infrequent watering, and these, I think might look pretty out around the mailbox, where no hose would reach.  In short….MY kind of plant!

 

 

Even though I will now have to have someone to plant them for me, and then put in a soaker hose on a timer out at the pump, to give them a trickle of water, still, I am excited about fixing the yard up, and maybe making it look pretty.

 

And although I don’t go outside very often, I can still see them through the house windows, as they grow, and gently sway in any fit of breeze.

 

And I know that—even obliquely—I will have tried to capture a little bit of glamour, and beauty, and calming effects of such wonderful flowers!

 

 

My dearest friends, and loyal readers, my questions to you are:

1)           Do you garden, at all?

2)           If you have a garden, what plants do you have in it?

3)           What are you favorite plants, and why?

4)           What plants—if any—help you to ‘feel good’?

5)           Where do you get your plants?  From a neighbor? From seed?  From a local ‘home-improvement’ store, in their garden department?  Or, do you buy from catalogues?

6)           Do you ever have cut flower arrangements in your home?  And why?

 

 

 

Please kindly share your thoughts, feelings, and experiences with planting flowers, or flower beds in the comment section, below.

 

 

And, as always, please know that I think of you so very often, and that I love you dearly!

 

 

‘Zahc’/Charles

Wednesday, July 17, 2013


 

“For Those Who Have Intractable Pain, As Have I, I have Good News I Want To Share With You”

 

 

07/17/13

 

(While—admittedly—this is a repeat of an earlier diary entry, still…should it in any way prove to be of some help and relief to you, it makes my heart feel glad!)

 

 

To my very dearest friends, and constant, loyal readers,

 

 I know that so many of you suffer from interminable, horrible pain, that—sometimes—not even pain medication seems to touch; I suffer from it too, as can be found, listed, at my profile.

 

 

But as you friend, I am ever pledged to ‘be there’ for you; to never lie to you; to do, in fact whatever I can to be of help to you so that you may be in lessened pain-enough to cope; and it is most sincerely hoped with all my heart that it will help you to feel better, and be able to enjoy life more!

 

 

Please know—though—that I am not a professional. Nor am I a licensed Therapist.  So, anything that I may tell you is the product of my own experience, and, of course…my own opinion.  But I am very much aware of my kind audience, and your needs.  And, if I have in any way, proven to be of even some, small help to you, then—my dearest friends, my heart is truly made happy.  And, as always, please, please know that I love you so very dearly.

 

 

 

About two months ago, now, on one of my scheduled, monthly visits to my Pain Management Doctor, I happened to be seen by his Physician’s Assistant.

 

 

 

During the course of the exam, in which I catalogued all the varied places that cause me unbearable pain, he held up his finger to stop me, and smiled at me, and told me he thought he knew of something that might help, that could be safely used concurrently with my regime of pain medication, involving opiate narcotics.

 

 

And after our visit, I saw him at the telephone in his office, and waved at him.

 

 

What arrived, by mail, to my door, was a topical pain cream, formulated only at a ‘compounding lab’, within a pharmacy, in Russelville, Al.  It is available by prescription, only, and is formulated nowhere else.

 

 

And since my insurance wouldn’t cover it, they sent me the first 50mg. bottle, without charge.  They merely refer to it as ‘Topical Pain Cream’.

 

 

Now, dearest friends, I do not believe I have ever in this forum, ever endorsed a medication, before, but I have to tell you…from my experience and use of the product, it IS worth its weight in gold!, in the reduction of fibromyalgia arthritis, and nerve-induced pain !!!

 

 

In addition to my profile’s list of ills, I also have nerve-induced pain from old vertebrae compression fractures, and rib fractures from having fallen numerous times in the house, and in the bathtub.  Often, wide patches of my skin feel as if they are ‘frying off me’, and radiate pure pain, seemingly down to the very bone.  So much so, that I found I was quite unable to lie on that side at night, since the area described a rough oval from the middle of my kidneys to past mid-thigh; and when I began to try to sleep on my other side, it too began to evidence pain.

 

 

It was to these regions, as well as to my back  (from base of spine to just beneath my shoulder blades).  All these areas of pain, in addition to a general, well-established myalgia, causes so much pain, that it often makes me red-faced, sweating, irregular of breath, with heart-pounding, crying pain, during which, I find I cannot move, or sit, or lie down; on the ‘pain scale’ of 1-10, surely this pain, eclipses a ‘10’, and rockets to infinity.

 

 

And I am sure that you—too—suffer just as greatly.

 

 

And so, I tried it, really not expecting much.  However, dearest friends, it worked, and worked so well, that I was able—for the first time in ages—to sleep on the affected side.  Not only that, but when I apply it to my greatest back pain, it—too-- most remarkably helps to reduce the pain.

 

 

 

Because of it, I can back off from some of the doses of opiate medication, so that I seem to be less in a preoccupied mind fog.

 

 

This topical cream is available only by prescription, and is not inexpensive; after the trial, 50mg. pump bottle was used up, even those I am on SSDI, and am always broke, STILL, I telephoned that pharmacy, and charged the $75.00, for a 90mg. bottle.  But, although my insurance plan will not cover it, your insurance may cover it.

 

 

I do not think I have ever used this forum to endorse a medication, but if you are in tsunamis of agonizing pain, I urge you to consider this product.  Speak with your Primary, or Pain Manager first, as—again—it can be obtained by prescription only.

 

The pharmacy’s address:

Russelville Pharmacy

dba Sheffield Expert Compounding

14001 Hwy-43,

Russelville, Al., 35653

Tel.: 1—888—705—4990

 

Active ingredients:

 

1)           Ketamine…a narcotic pain formula derived from Hydrocodone.

2)           Baclofen…a muscle-relaxant; anti-spasmodic.

3)           Cyclobenzaprine…’Flexoril’…a muscle relaxant.

4)           Diclofenac…an N.S.A.I.D, derivative of Ibuprophen.

5)           Gabapentin…similar to ‘Neurontin’, a ‘nerve calming’ agent.

6)           Lidocaine…a pain reliever.

7)           Tramadol…a pain reliever.

 

Before use, the package directions suggest putting the product in the refrigerator for at least 45 minutes, to allow it to thicken up, and to be cool to the touch in application.

 

Directions for use:

 

‘Apply 1 to 2 pumps to affected area, 3 to 4 times daily (max. 8 pumps within 24 hours)’.

 

 

Product Information and Warnings:

 

1)           For external use only!

2)           Not for use on children, or nursing women.

3)           May cause drowsiness/use caution while driving.

 

And, of course it goes without saying to not use the product if you are allergic to any of it constituents; should you evidence any sign of a negative reaction to any of the ingredients, stop immediately, and call ‘911’, or, your Primary!

Further, although this is a topical application, I would probably want to keep Benadryl (diphenhydramine), 25 mg. tabs on hand, taking up to 4, at first sign of adverse reaction.  That is just MY opinion, dear friends, but it may save you a trip to the emergency room, but my judgment tells me to ever be cautious. 

 

 

Additional information:

 

1)           This topical medication is available in different formulations.  I have—just this morning—telephoned them to have them e-mail what further information they may have, which I will share with you, should there be any, additional information, that I have not already listed, my dearest friends as soon as I receive it.

2)           In addition, this formula is available, with the addition of ‘Acyclovir’, for the treatment of, and pain relief from Shingles.

3)           This formulation is also available ‘gluten-free’, for those allergic to gluten products.

 

 

 

I must confess that I do not use it as often as I could, simply because—considering my financial situation, $75.00 is a LOT of money for me; however, the pain relief that it seems to confer is beyond price, and is incontestably worth every penny.

 

 

And please, please know, my dear, dear friends, and loyal readers, I do not receive one DIME for my endorsement of this product.  I only hope—with all my heart—that it, too, may be able to provide you with some demonstrable and lasting relief from your chronic pain.

 

 

I am just so very, very happy to be able to share with you potentially good news in helping to further manage your pain.

 

 

Should you have any further questions, please feel free to write your comment, below, or to ‘PM’ me, if you prefer.  Or... telephone the Pharmacy directly.

 

 

 

Oh, my dearest, sweetest, kindest friends, I think of you so very often, and wish for you days of ‘no pain’ or lessened pain.  Comfortable, able to relax, feel better, maybe to be able to do more things.  And enjoy life!

 

 

I also wish you be full-surrounded by family and friends who love you for yourself.  And quiet, uneventful nights of balmy, dreamy uninterrupted, and blissful, restorative sleep, as always, kept safe, and watched-over by gentle angels.

 

Please know that I think of you so very often, and that I love you dearly,

 

‘Zahc’/Charles

Saturday, July 6, 2013

"My Most Grateful Thanks To You, My Very Dearest Friends


“My Most Grateful Thanks To You, My Very Dearest Friends”

 

 

07/06/13

 

 

To my very, very dearest friends, and ever-loyal and kind readers,

 

 

I would be unpardonably remiss if I did not thank you for all of your wonderfully kind and thoughtful comments, ‘hugs’, ‘PMs’, and telephone calls to offer your condolences on Daisy’s passing.

 

I cannot tell you just how comforting your messages were (when I needed them most!), and how I have kept them near my heart, and how they still help quiet my sorrow, and sense of true loneliness, and for being there for me in my dark hours.

 

I thank you for your caring, your kind support and encouragement, your faith, your strength…and…your abundant love.

 

 

I can only hope that I may be able to return that sense of unity, that sense of purpose.  I can truly never thank you enough for the special persons you are: unique, and wonderful!
 

 

It has been a week--almost to the hour--that Daisy passed away; I try to take some comfort in that I kept her medicated for pain, and medications for her heart, her breathing, and to encourage a waning appetite. I am also comforted that she died so very quickly, but without pain.



Now...having said that, I must honestly confess to you that I am sad, very, very depressed, and feel empty, and lonely inside. The house now seems too large, and I still find myself looking for her in the house, or hearing her nails as they made little skittering noises as she walked over the wood laminate floor.



On more than one occasion, I find myself near her medications, and wanting to get the ready three times a day.



I also was apparently not aware of just how very much I talked to her during the day, and briefly found myself talking to myself, until I realized that it would just seem odd, were I to do that in public.

 

If I can, I want to try to donate what's left of Daisy's medications to the local S.P.C.A.; I have already given away what's left of a large bag of kibble to my cousin, and gave Daisy's special, 'pillow', to a neighbor who has a dog.



Even though money is always scarce, I paid a neighbor to super-clean the house, as there was still kibbles spilled on the floor, and Daisy's, 'pee pads', all over the living room.



I've kept Daisy's collar and tags, and will continue to keep them. At my profile here at MDJ, there are two photographs (about three years old) of Daisy when she was still in her prime.


 
But--as difficult as it has been to write—I wanted to thank everyone who left comments that soothed my heart.



Except for a couple, brief episodes, the tears have not come; I am as yet too weary, and in pain to do anything more that cry about my unutterable pain and despair; I fully imagine that tears for my dearest Daisy will come when they will.



I find some calming in the belief that Daisy is now in Heaven (with my first dog, "King" ), and that they have joined my dearest mother and father in that rarified state of unending bliss; it is a belief I hold most tightly to.



I most sincerely hope that you are feeling better, and are able to get much-needed rest. Please know that I am so very, very grateful for your abiding friendship.

 

In time, and—finances willing—I want to outline Daisy’s grave with garden fencing, and plant (what else!) but Gaillardia, a hardy, perennial daisy, so that—from my back sliders—I will be able to see a small bed of absolutely beautiful flowers, which I hope will stay in bloom most of the year.

 

Again—my dearest friends who have pets—I would most kindly ask you to consider just how marvelous and important they are to you; please do not spare the hugs, the, ‘ear scratches’, not of whispering in their ears just how very, very much you love them…even as they faultlessly love you.

 

Be ever kind to them, even as you would seek to be as kind to those in your lives who value you, and who love you.

 

I ever wish for you balmy, pleasant days, no sense of want or need, and a greater calmness and the joy of daily living.

 

I wish you respite from pain and all despairing.

 

And—as always—gladsome nights of blissful, and restorative rest.

 

Please, please know that I think of you often, and that…I love you dearly!

 

 

‘Zahc’/Charles